• Is it hard to place a child for adoption?

    Exploring the adoption process is a deeply personal and individual process.  It is best to talk with a knowledgeable adoption professional who understands adoption and can guide you through the process. Adoption is a courageous and painful choice, but with good preparation and support you will get through the process and make the best possible plan for you and your child.  Women who place a child in an open adoption generally find that they are empowered by the control they have over decision-making and feel secure in the relationship they develop with the adoptive parents they select.

  • What is open adoption?

    An open adoption is one in which the birth parent(s) select and meet the adoptive parents and exchange some or all of the identifying information.  Open adoption usually means that both families will communicate directly and agree to exchanges of information through the agency. It is important to remember that adoption is a human interaction and the degree of openness generally increases as the birth family and the adoptive families get to know each other, which enables the parties to form a caring and trusting relationship.

    In an open adoption, it is not uncommon for the birth and adoptive families to spend time together during doctor’s appointments and in the hospital after the birth.  There is usually a mutually agreed upon amount of post placement contact between the families as well.  While this type of adoption is not for everyone, it can be a positive experience, which provides both the birth parents and the adoptive couple with peace of mind and comfort. The decision to place your child for adoption is complex. A counselor will help you with your decision without making you feel pressured or obligated.

  • What qualifications must an adoptive couple meet before they are accepted as clients in your agency?

    Adoptive couples who are accepted by our agency must meet State of Idaho rules in order to be able to adopt.  These rules include: an approved home study; a stable marriage; good physical and mental health; evidence of no problems with drugs and/or alcohol; passing an extensive criminal history clearance.
  • Does your agency work with adoptive couples who are from out-of-state or are they required to be residents of Idaho?

    Because we are licensed by the State of Idaho as non-profit established to provide adoption services in Idaho, we give priority to families who live in the state.  However, if we have a birth mother with an unusual request or need that cannot be fulfilled by any of our families in Idaho, we will search for adoptive families outside of Idaho.
  • What information if any is needed from the birth father?

    If at all possible, it is important to collect medical history information from the birth father so it is available if the child experiences medical issues in the future.
  • When, if at all does the birth father need to be involved?

    We welcome the opportunity to have the birth father involved in the process. If the birth father is still involved with the birth mother and/or wants to be involved in the planning for the child, he can also receive counseling from our staff.   It is particularly helpful to have the birth father’s involvement if there is conflict about whether to parent the child or create an adoption plan. Separate counseling appointments can be scheduled if necessary to work on conflict resolution issues.
  • How soon after the baby is born can he/she be placed with the adoptive family?

    The baby is generally discharged directly from the hospital into the care of the adoptive family.
  • Will the agency help with my expenses? What will that include?

    Your counselor will work with you to determine if you are eligible for state assistance for your medical expenses.  If you place your child for adoption, the adoptive family will be responsible for the medical expenses related to your pregnancy as well as any legal costs that are incurred.  In certain cases, we can also help with “reasonable and necessary living expenses”.
  • If I am under the age of 18, do my parents have to give their permission for me to make an adoption plan?

    No. You do not need your parent’s approval to place your child for adoption.  Counseling is available to the birth parent’s extended family members (parents and siblings) if you indicate that you would like their help with decisions.
  • If my parents do not agree with my choice of adoptive parents and they want to raise my child, do I have to let them?

    No. You and the birth father (if he is involved) can decide who you will place your child with.  Grandparents have no special rights in Idaho.

  • What happens if my baby is born medically fragile or has birth defects…will the family I have chosen still want to adopt him/her?

    It is important that you be honest with your counselor if you are concerned about genetic medical issues or drug or alcohol use during your pregnancy. This ensures that the adoptive couple you select is aware of these potential issues.  Our experience is that the family you have chosen will probably still be committed to adopting your child.  If they do not feel they can meet the child’s special needs, we will work with you to select a family that has the resources to raise your child.
  • If I decide to place my child for adoption, will I have to go to court?

    Yes.  Placing a child for adoption is a legal process and you will need to sign legal papers in the presence of a judge.  The process is a very private and only the people involved in the adoption planning are allowed in the courtroom. Your counselor will help you through this process.
  • Once I have been to court and the judge approves my adoption decision, can I change my mind?

    No.  Once the judge has signed the papers that terminate your parental rights to the child, it is not possible to change your mind.

  • I am already parenting a child and don’t feel I am doing a good job. Can I talk to a counselor about adoption now?

    Yes.  Whether you are pregnant or currently parenting, our counselors are available to discuss your options with you.  Even if you have been involved with Child Protection Services, our counselors will assist you in determining whether an adoption plan is in your child’s best interest.