No one likes a micromanager--and that includes kids! Adults can understand how frustrating and damaging a micromanager can be, yet most parents micromanage their children heavily and fail to see why kids grow up to be resentful in the aftermath.
"My parents don't understand what it's like to be my age."
“They just don’t get it!”
Sound familiar? At the Idaho Youth Ranch, we hear these phrases often. And the truth is, they’re true!
One of the most common mistakes parents make is attempting to maintain an aura of parental perfection, fearing that either kids will use mistakes against them later, or won’t respect their authority. It can be scary to be vulnerable and “human” in front of your kids by apologizing and admitting fault. But it’s also one of the most important ways you can form a healthy relationship based on mutual respect.
The benefits of having a routine are widely accepted where small children are concerned, but have you thought about your older child's schedule?
There's never a bad time to set new goals. When done well, goals keep your kids motivated and help them learn how to manage expectations and work toward something.
What kind of family did you imagine you would create when you were younger?
Chances are, if your childhood was a happy one you imagined that your family would look very similar. On the other hand, if your childhood was difficult or traumatic, you probably hoped that the family you created one day would be different.
If you’re like most parents, you’ve probably noticed that there seems to be a standardized answer to the following question : “How was your day today?” and "What did you learn at school today?"
If you’re tired of getting “good” or “fine” as an answer, we’ve got some great questions to help your child open up, spark some fun conversation, and help you learn more about your child’s day!
Did you know that one of the most critical indicators for a child’s success is the kitchen table? Researchers at the National Center for Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University found that kids who ate with their families five times a week were far less likely to have problems with substance abuse, and were more likely to earn better grades.
Have you ever been angry with your child for acting exactly like you? Don't worry- you are not alone! Here are a few helpful hints about setting a good example for your child.
The words “fear” and “respect” go hand-in-hand in the minds of many parents. In fact, confusing these two concepts is the No. 1 mistake we see parents make at the Idaho Youth Ranch--which is why teaching parents the difference between fear-based and respect-centered parenting is one of the key ways we help rehabilitate families.
So what is the difference between fear and respect?